i manifested my ex after 2 months no contact and bad circumstances

The story

i really thought i would not get to say this. actually i guess i didnt, since it happened as i wanted it to. i am happy i get to share my story because i was once on here, reading through success stories trying to convince myself that i was not wasting time and that i could manifest my ex back.

for a little bit of backstory: my ex and i were together for 4 years and he broke up with me after feeling unhappy and a lack of improvement on my end for a while. i noticed the shift, i didnt do anything about it but i had also kinda tapped out of the relationship too so i felt like it was bound to happen. little did i know that when i lost him, i felt the void and knew that i needed to fix up and be a better gf for him. i did not let him go initially, he kept begging me to leave him alone and he returned my stuff to my family's house and was VERY adamant and strong in his decision, even noting that he does not love me anymore or have feelings for me. obviously this hurt for a while but after about 3 half weeks, something clicked in my head and i stopped believing the narrative. i was manifesting out of lack and i was always checking his socials, posting for his family to see my stuff, worrying about what he was doing, prior to that. i am unsure how it happened, but i finally let go. i stopped missing him, i felt like i was moving on too. i felt like i didnt need him and truly started to focus on me and my improvement. i knew also that if he came back then, nothing would have changed for me, i would have resorted back to my old ways, so i knew change was integral.

i did not stop manifesting. i stopped being infatuated with the outcome, constantly wondering why or how. i started to trust my intuition and picked up on many different synchronicities and signs. things were falling into place. weird "coincidences" began to happen, his family was viewing my socials, i noticed many more angel numbers, i started to get strong feelings that he was missing me.

what i did: the o method. i would do this method while with him too. id picture us getting married. now when i do it, i set my intention and while its happening, i feel all the emotions and i repeat his name or the way he feels, visualising it in my head and feeling that it is true. sexual energt is really powerful and this is something that always makes me feel 10x confident. another thing i did was work on my self-concept big time. i did mirror work often, affirmed my beauty and intelligence and worth. i realized also that i was really missing the validation and feeling of someone other than my family loving me. i knew i needed to give that back to myself. i started to pour into my own cup. it was difficult but i knew that the outcome would be the biggest reward. i focused on school, i dressed up every day and tried to look my best. before falling asleep id visualize him messaging me and him telling people that he missed me and wanted to try again. i also did the love letter method while listening to subliminals from high frequency guru. everything on that paper was things that i not only believed would happen but that were reasonable and that i believed he would say. i really tried to tune into his energy and think about how he would phrase things. i read it to myself and i swear in that moment, i felt an energetic shift. something clicked and im not sure what but it did.

i stopped being bothered about socials too. deactivating my instagram was very helpful for this. i wasnt checking on him nor his 3p, who he followed on instagram after our break up, who was his ex girlfriend who he treated really poorly. i knew that story was not what was going to happen for me so i affirmed that he cant stop thinking of me regardless of who hes with. he knows that i am the only for him and no matter what he does, he cannot shake the feeling. one thing i did not do that most do was tell people the other story. i did not want my family or friends to think that i was in denial (bc i wasnt, i truly accepted reality but knew that i could alter it by shifting my focus), and i really did not want them to worry. so i told them i moved on and said things to make myself feel better, like that i lost feelings in teh relationship and that he was great but sometimes good things dont work out. but in my heart, i knew he was coming back and i knew our story was not over.

trust me when i say that circumstances do not matter. this man did not want anything to do with me. he was done with me. he felt used, under appreciated, not heard or seen, and honestly i agreed with him. he needed to break up with me for me to recognize my patterns of bad behaviour and how i treat the people who love me. i knew i needed to do inner healing and reconnect with myself before i could give the best love to him. he even told me that he doesnt see a future with me anymore, that he was hanging onto things because he was avoiding breaking up but he reached a breaking point and seeing his ex gf at a party 2 days before the break ip, really nudged his decision bc he reflected on how poorly he treated her and felt i was his KARMA. that obviously hurt for a bit, but i genuinely saw how everything he told me and everything that happened was an exact projection of my own beliefs. he was saying things and doing things that i was thinking about for months prior. i also believed those things and found it hard to see a future bc i was not focused at all on self improvement to be able to accept his love and give it back to him.

once i started to focus on MY goals, MY intentions, MY idea of self, everything fell into place. i started to value me. i had really low self-esteem and i would often not believe his compliments to me or id always feel like he could find someone else. i knew that my mind and beliefs would shape my reality. its hard to disconnect from the past story, i wont deny that. but its even harder to sit in it and realize that nothing is going to change if you dont make any changes. it all starts from within.

i started to become more intentional about my faith. leaning into christianity more has helped me in this journey too, trusting that everything will unfold in due time. i began thanking God for my already answered prayers. trust me this helps A LOT. this takes away your SP as the focus and makes you think about how you are already whole and complete even if you don't have them. i knew that he was just an addition to my life but that i myself am enough on my own. once i started tapping into my own frequency and realizing that there is so much more to life than being upset over things that you knew were coming, i really changed everything.

i knew that when he came back i would be better. i have been actively in therapy, i am more focused on school which was something that was SO important for me bc law school was something i achieved on my own merit so that helped with my confidence BIG TIME, i started to lean on my friends more, i felt comfortable being by myself and not needing anyone or anything to fill the void, and most of all, i trusted that its all going to work out.

its hard to trust the unknown and to trust that its going to work out especially if your circumstances were bad. mine were beyond bad. no one had any faith that we'd get back together and everyone was really devastated. but i realized how necessary this break up was for me and that i needed to shift the way i view my relationships and myself within them. once i took him off the pedestal and put me on it instead, i saw a big change. i viewed me as the prize and i knew that he would come back to me because he saw that value in me too. i knew that i was worth missing and that i was the best girl he had ever been with. i knew that he would want to give it another try because he regretted how it ended and realized he was missing out on something that was really life changing for the both of us.

remember that you are the prize. keep persisting and never resisting. any type of obsessive or controlling behaviour will only block your blessings. its only a matter of time before everything falls into place, you just have to trust that you are getting what you want and what's meant for you. the world around you is a mirror of what is inside you. i believe that it can happen for you too, just feed into your delusion and know that he is coming back to you.

we are talking about next steps but right now we are just catching up on what we missed these past few months. its nice and it feels like a fresh start. i know things will be right this time because i believe it!